Thanks for visiting the Bethany Village blog! My name is Meg Wulfeck. I have a master’s degree in social work from The Ohio State University and am a licensed social worker. For the past four years, I have worked in Bethany’s Memory Support Center, where I look after residents’ psychological and social well being and help them adjust to a new home. My goal for each resident in the Memory Support Center is optimal physical and emotional health, personal autonomy, meaningful daily activity and a quality of life that is unique to the individual.
I began my career in senior living/nursing care to gain experience in the medical aspects of social work. More and more, I found myself drawn to dementia care. I guess that’s where God wants me to be, because I have definitely found my niche at Bethany Village.
On two occasions, my grandmother-in-law spent time at the Bethany Village Rehabilitation Center. Each time, I was confident that she was receiving the utmost in quality care delivered with the genuine kindness that is Bethany’s hallmark. Whenever I have a positive impact on the life of a resident or a family member, I feel that I have been given a gift. I am sure the staff members who cared for my grandmother-in-law felt the same way.
I live with my husband and three children in Kettering, Ohio. I love to sing and I help lead worship at my church. Taking photos and digital scrapbooking are my favorite hobbies. One of my lifetime goals is to write an inspirational or devotional book. Blogging is a good start!
Care giving for an aging or elderly parent is usually a fairly long-term proposition that may evolve from just checking in every day to actually moving in. Chances are, however, that your parent’s needs will eventually escalate to more than you can safely handle on your own. That’s why it is so important to have a discussion early on about how both of you will know it’s time for a move to long-term care. If you reach agreement when life is relatively calm, it will much easier for you to take the next step when it’s necessary.
In the meantime, here are 10 tips for you to keep in mind for your own well being as you care for your parent.
1. Lead as much of a balanced life as circumstances allow.
2. Make sure you stay healthy. Eat well and get enough sleep.
3. Be aware that depression goes along with long-term care giving. Exercise will help ward off the blues. You may benefit from professional counseling as well.
4. If your parent is gravely ill, you may be grieving over the reality of slowly losing him or her. Seek emotional support from family and friends. Avoid emotional isolation.
5. Avoid physical isolation, too. You may find yourself homebound along with your parent. If you can’t get out regularly, invite people to drop by. Have family and friends over for potluck meals and holiday celebrations.
6. It’s difficult to do, but try to keep any personal issues separate from your care giving responsibilities. Stress can damage the relationship between you and your parent.
7. Your parent needs to have as much autonomy and independence as possible. It’s important for him or her to make decisions (like deciding what to have for lunch) and have some meaningful activity (like folding the clothes) that contribute to home life. These things may seem insignificant, but they greatly enhance quality of life.
8. A cognitively impaired person requires a set routine, but within that routine, he or she needs still some meaning and purpose to ward off depression.
9. It’s important not to encourage a role reversal. Your parent has lived a life. Respect that and preserve the relationship.
10. If your parent refuses to eat regardless of what you do, take it clinically not personally. Get a medical evaluation. Having no appetite could be a precursor to an acute illness.
If you need additional help and have financial constraints, Medicaid will assess your parent’s requirements and, if he or she qualifies, will provide assistance. Some examples of assistance - regardless of ability to pay - include home health care, adult day care, Meals on Wheels, housekeeping and home health companion services.
Were these tips useful for you? The Bethany Village staff welcomes your comments. Let us know how you are getting along with care giving for your parent(s).
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