Senior Living Ohio

While driving past my local fire station this morning, I saw a line of children – they looked like first- or second-graders – walking two by two with a teacher at the either end of the queue. They were headed into the firehouse for what was likely their first-ever visit and formal lesson in fire safety. And since October 9-15 is National Fire Prevention Week, the children’s field trip was very timely!

We are very conscientious about teaching our kids the basics of fire safety because they are such a vulnerable group. Many of us, however, overlook what is arguably an equally vulnerable group – the elderly, especially older folks who live alone. Seniors with hearing or vision loss and those with mobility impairments may not detect fire quickly and may be hindered in their escape.

In fact, adults between age 65 and 75 have a fire death rate twice that of the national average; between age 75 and 85, three times the national average; and over age 85, four times the national average. The leading cause of fire deaths in the elderly? Smoking. The leading cause of fire-related injuries in the elderly? Cooking.

Here are some fire safety tips for any senior who lives independently, whether in a retirement village or in a community setting:

• The single most important step you can take to save your life during a fire is to install smoke alarms, which can alert you to the presence of deadly smoke while there is still time to escape. Place alarms next to each sleeping area and on every floor of your home. Ask friends, family members, building managers or someone from the fire department to install and test smoke alarm batteries at least twice a year – spring and fall with the change of daylight savings time is a good plan. If your smoke alarms are hardwired (connected to the electric circuitry of your residence), make sure they are also equipped with battery back-ups.

• Whether at home or elsewhere, always know the location of the nearest exit. If you live in an apartment building, know where the exit stairwell is and plan to wait there for help if you cannot take the stairs. If you live in a multistory house, try to sleep on the ground floor. Plan your escape route around your capabilities and practice it.

• Have at least one fire extinguisher – and know how to use it. Keep a fire extinguisher easily accessible in the kitchen. If you are confined to a wheelchair, consider having a small easy-to-reach fire extinguisher in mounted on your chair

• Make sure there is a phone next to your bed within arm’s reach. Keep emergency telephone numbers and hearing aids (if necessary) handy.

• Never leave the stove unattended while cooking. If you need to step away from the stove, turn it off. Keep towels and potholders away from the burners. If food or grease catches fire, smother the flames by sliding a lid over the pan and turning off the heat.

• Never use appliances with exposed wires.
  
• Make sure that you are alert when you smoke.
  
• NEVER SMOKE IN BED!
  
• If an oxygen source is nearby, warn guests to refrain from smoking.

• Don't leave portable heaters alone or go to sleep while they are on.
  
• Don’t overload electrical outlets or extension cords.
  
• If your residence is on fire, get out as soon as possible – and stay out. Do not try to gather personal possessions before you leave.

For more information, visit the Ohio Fire Marshal’s website. Take some time during National Fire Prevention Week to think about your own safety and that of your family and friends.

Bethany Village, a nationally accredited Continuing Care Retirement Community, has been providing quality senior living to the Dayton community for more than 60 years and was recently recognized as the retirement community of choice in the Dayton, Ohio area. Since 1946, Bethany has devoted itself to faithfully caring for the needs of older adults. Bethany Village is sponsored by Graceworks Lutheran Services, an organization incorporated in 1926 with a mission to help people of all faiths experience dignity and wholeness.


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For information on our wide range of residential choices or to take a tour of our community, call the Bethany Marketing Department at 937-436-6850 if you're exploring a new living experience for yourself or your parents.

Bethany's 100-acre campus, with tree-rich walking paths and a lake, includes:

• Contemporary new villas with expansive floor plans 
• Cottage homes of a variety of sizes, accessories and affordability
• Spacious new apartments with convenient parking garage and a large deck for outdoor gatherings and fun events
• Comfortable, convenient apartments to suit
• Assisted living
• Long-term nursing care
• Memory-supported care with beautifully landscaped enclosed courtyard and life enrichment activities
• Short-term rehabilitation services with nursing care and therapy services
• New Village Center with an up-to-date fitness center, art center, casual dining bistro, classroom, Grand Room reception facility and lounge areas

Take our virtual tour to see how we've transformed senior living with a new Village Center, 30 new villas, 30 spacious apartments and a new Memory Support Center. It's a life full of enriching activities in beautiful surroundings with caring staff. If you'd like to visit us in person, call 937-436-6850 to schedule an appointment.

 

If you hate to move, you’re not alone. In fact, the thought of moving can often act as a deterrent from people making the decision to move to a continuing care retirement community like Bethany Village.

"Downsizing is always the biggest part -- and fear -- of the move because the majority of our residents have lived in their home for 20 or more years," says Bethany Village move-in coordinator April Shank.

April has a unique job at Bethany: she gets to meet every new indepedent living resident before they actually move into their cottage, villa or apartment on campus! She helps with the transition and makes moving to Bethany more manageable. She can provide information about moving companies and even help future residents determine which furniture to bring to campus.

"I will visit them at their place to look at their furniture and help them determine what might work," continues April. "We will even measure current pieces and sometimes discuss new furniture." Being able to arrange their new environment -- make it their home -- also gives them a certain peace of mind.

Not everyone coming to Bethany is from Dayton or even Ohio. It’s not uncommon for new residents to come from a neighboring state or across the country. April assists residents with moves both large and small and provides info packets with partner companies worldwide. Before moving day arrives, April ensures all details are ready like carpeting, paint or other upgrades. On moving day, April is on hand to help with last minute details. If something needs fixed, she contacts maintenance immediately. Plus, her presence helps new residents feel at ease. She makes sure new residents know their way around campus and gets them settled.

All of April’s services are free to incoming residents.

Interested in Bethany Village? Call 937-436-6850 to schedule an appointment with a senior living counselor. Or, take our virtual tour before calling!

If you are an older person thinking about visiting some retirement communities in anticipation of making a move (or if you are a family member thinking about future living arrangements for a loved one), I have a very important piece of advice for you: Do it when things are going well and you are not in crisis or under any pressure to make a fast decision. Not being in a hurry to make a move gives you the freedom to consider all your options, weigh the pros and cons, and make an informed decision.

I’ve been a senior living counselor at Bethany Village for 11 years, and in that time, I have learned what it takes for prospective residents to glean the most information from their retirement community preview tours. Here are some tips:

Don’t be afraid to make an appointment. Selecting a retirement community can’t be done over the phone. You’ll want to compare at least a couple of similar places. Meeting face-to-face with a counselor is the best way to get a feel for the place and have all your questions answered.

Be prepared. Before you set off for your appointment, take a few minutes to write down your "hot button" issues. What are you looking for? What is less than perfect in your current living situation? Could the community you are visiting solve those problems?

Allow enough time for your appointment. For example, Bethany’s campus is fairly large – ranging from independent living in cottages to long-term nursing home care. We ask our prospective residents to plan on about a 90-minute visit.

Visit during the day. Retirement communities are quieter in the evening and on weekends, so if you want get a realistic impression, come during the day.

Try to set aside preconceived negatives. There are several common preconceived notions about moving into a retirement community. One has to do with loss of control over your lifestyle. A quality retirement community will allow you to make the decisions about how much assistance/care you need. Fear of moving into a nursing home is another common issue. If there is a nursing home associated with the retirement community you are visiting, ask to see it and take a good look around. At Bethany, for example, I think the community and atmosphere would be not at all what you anticipated.

Expect the places you visit to follow-up with you. The counselors you meet with should call you about a week after your visit to see if you have any questions. If you show interest in the community, you should expect the counselor to invite you and perhaps a family member back for another visit.

Let’s face it: people generally don’t like making dramatic changes in how and where they live, especially as they get older. You probably want to see me – a retirement community counselor – about as much as you want to go to the dentist! But taking care of these plans now can make your life a lot easier later. I can assure you that at Bethany Village, your needs and comfort come first. And if you use the tips I’ve outlined above, you will be able to make an informed choice when it’s time to look at retirement living.

Your comments are welcome about your experience with tours of retirement communities.

For many seniors having a car and the ability to drive anywhere and anytime is understandably a luxury they do not willingly want to relinquish. They have been driving the majority of their lives and many cannot imagine giving this up.

If one or both of your parents is facing the decision to stop driving, either because of personal health or safety issues, understand the gravity of the decision. To provide support, be encouraging and offer up some positive aspects of letting someone else do the driving.

A big benefit is financial. The money saved on insurance, gas and routine maintenance is substantial and can be applied toward paying for private transportation when needed. Other benefits include the end of battling inclement weather and skipping the annual hassle of renewing car insurance, driver’s licenses and registrations.

If your mom and dad live in a retirement community such as Bethany Village they can still keep their independence whether they drive or not. Bethany provides bus transportation to local grocery and department stores, physician offices and pharmacies at no extra cost. Bethany also provides private transportation based on individual needs and assistance that might be required.

Children that live nearby can also provide transportation assistance, and pair the outing with lunch and some quality time with mom and dad.

Our society is of the mindset that once you can no longer drive, your life comes to a halt. While driving can certainly afford your parent(s) a more spontaneous lifestyle, with some advance planning, a full social calendar is possible!

Have you recently had the "no more driving" talk with mom or dad? How did it go? Leave your advice in the comments section below. AARP has more information about planning the conversation.

More and more seniors are selecting and ultimately moving to a retirement community in a state other than where they currently reside. Not surprising, one major factor in this decision is the consideration of wanting to be closer to their children and grandchildren.

Family is a huge pull on the emotional heartstrings. The opportunity to be closer to children and grandchildren and be a part of their daily lives often motivates seniors to relocate where family lives.

There are many benefits for both parents and their children. First, there is an opportunity to check-in frequently with one another, whether it is gathering for Sunday family dinners or simply an impromptu visit. Also, having parents in the same city allows them to attend grandchildren’s special events, such as dance recitals or weekly soccer games.

On a more practical level, having parents close by enables the sons and daughters to assist more in situations where one or more parent’s health is declining. When parents live far away, sons and daughters need to take vacation days, or even a week at a time to visit and provide assistance on a more sporadic basis. If the parents are in good health, many are helping assist with their grandchildren, offering to watch grandchildren after school or transport them to events while the parents are at work. This is a tremendous help when both parents work outside the home.

Often the sons and daughters are doing the initial research and paving the way for mom and dad to move closer. More and more initial visits here at Bethany Village  in Dayton, Ohio are with the entire family or just with the adult children. It used to be I would see the children at the end of the process or on moving day but not anymore.

Are you now living in a senior retirement community like Bethany Village? Did you enlist the help of your children for guidance on your decision? Leave us a comment and tell us your story.

Directions to Bethany Village:

Bethany Village is located just north of the intersection of Interstate 675 and Far Hills Avenue in Centerville, 10 miles south of Dayton, Ohio.
Click here for a map or for Mapquest directions.

So your parent(s) have made the decision to move to a Retirement Community – a big step indeed. This decision in and of itself is a monumental one and no doubt as the son or daughter you were involved in the process. Now, it’s just a matter of packing and moving mom and dad to their new home right? For a lot of people, what lies ahead is one of the hardest parts – the emotional aspects of downsizing.

As a senior living counselor for Bethany Village, a continuing care retirement community in Centerville, OH, I hear over and over, "What am I going to do with all my stuff?" In many cases, 40 to 50 years of memories have accumulated in attics, basements, closets, drawers and garages. Belongings spanning two or even three generations have piled up making the downsizing process overwhelming.

So where do you begin?

My best advice is simple: Do a little each day and consider hiring professional help.

First, go through your home room by room and divide belongings into three categories: keep, donate or throw away. Many items have sentimental value, which makes them extremely hard to consider giving away. This is where a professional can be very helpful. Those who specialize in downsizing and transitioning are experts in the sorting process because they look at things with an objective eye. They can also locate auctioneers and provide information on estate sales which can help you sell some of your items, especially valuable collectibles.

Before selling or donating items that are sentimental, take pictures of the treasured items and place those pictures in a memory album. This keeps the memory of the item alive without actually having to physically own it after moving into your new home.

And if a piece of furniture is really important to you, find just the perfect place in your new home to enjoy it.

While it’s ideal to downsize all at once, the reality is many people downsize in stages, storing items until a later date. With children often spread out over many states, it’s not always possible to get it all done at once. Forty or 50 years of belongings is a lot to sift through, so utilize resources to help make the process as seamless as possible. And with the money you make from your estate sale, treat yourself to some new items for your new home!

Share your experiences about downsizing with us in the comments section below. If you’ve been through the process already, do you have any advice or helpful hints? What would you have done differently?

Directions to Bethany Village:

Bethany Village is located just north of the intersection of Interstate 675 and Far Hills Avenue in Centerville, 10 miles south of Dayton, Ohio.
Click here for a map or for Mapquest directions.